Monday, March 21, 2011

Sangha

I have the good fortune of being able to teach a small and lovely group of yogis every Saturday morning.  It is a group of husbands/wives/neighbors that have been living in Philadelphia and exercising and having coffee together every week for at least 25 years.  Every once in awhile I'll join them at the local coffee shop afterward where some of their other friends are already tucked into their reserved corner, sipping lattes and talking about books and the past weeks happenings.  There is always a very interesting mix of amazing people that sit around those two tables, all are very involved in the community and have very interesting lives.  The laughter and love and respect and shared history around those tables is amazing.

Sangha...community.  It's such an important thing to have in one's life.  In this day and age it's so easy to go weeks without interacting socially with people of like minds, with the temptations of facebook and other online escapes....and although they are decent tools of communication and connection, there's something to be said about sitting down with someone face to face.

"Our modern way of life seems to be making us busier and busier about less and less.  
It is only after we being to taste the joy of simple living that we realize how much all this frantic activity can stand between us and our fulfillment.  
The more we divide our interests, our allegiances, our activities, the less time we have for living.
Loving, loyal personal relationships take time.  
We cannot get to know someone intimately in a day or establish a lasting relationship during a weekend conference.  If we spend eight hours a day at our job and the evening watching
television, where is the time for cultivating close friendships?  
If we simplify our lives we shall find the time and energy to be together with our family and friends, or to give our time to a worthy cause that needs our contribution.  
The simple life doesn't mean bearing with a drab routine; it means giving our time and attention to what is most important."
Eknath Easwaran

I definitely fall into that trap at times.  Having a career where I'm constantly in service of others can make me feel a little burnt out at times, and I'm a person that needs a lot of alone time to recharge.  When I do decide to hang out with friends socially, surprisingly, I can have a little anxiety around the occasion, though as soon as I relax into the conversation and moment with whoever I am with, that anxiety dissipates.

"No man is an island, entire of itself;
every man is a piece of the continent,
a part of the main."
John Donne 

I had a great weekend filled with sangha.  On Saturday I met with my yogini pack and we had brunch and chatted about life, love, loss....very deep and fulfilling stuff.  On Sunday I went to the Reiki School for their grand opening of the new space.  I got to see a few of my friends from when I was taking classes....it was so great to reconnect and hear how their lives are going.  I love running into people that I've done reiki or yoga with because our connection is so deeply ingrained in our practice, so there's not usually much small talk, just cutting to the marrow of life. 

"Human relationships are the perfect tool for sanding away our rough edges
and getting at the core of divinity within us.
We need to look no further than our own family, friends, acquaintances,
or even adversaries, to begin our practice."
Eknath Easwaran

So who do you need to make time to reach out to and rekindle a connection with today?  What friend/teacher/family member makes you feel whole and strong within yourself and when can you invite them for a cup of tea or skype date....if they are long distance.  Make a connection with someone new, someone old, someone borrowed, someone blue (blue meaning sad, or maybe a smurf) and notice how that might revitalize YOU!

3 comments:

  1. *Sigh* Feeling totally defeated. I just left you a long and lovely comment only to have the vile internet machine make it disappear. I'll share tomorrow.

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  2. Dear Meg,

    Thank you for this lovely and insipiring words. I wish I could see you more often and be part of your sangha. In Geneva I often miss a real community of like-minded people. The yoga teachers here are spread out and work individually, there is no real community, people in Switzerland are more individualistic maybe...So I share quality time and intimacy with my other friends but I miss a real sangha.
    Big hugs & love, hoping to see you soon or speak on Skype with you.
    Tiana

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  3. Ah Meg. I need to give you a call. Life is so strange for me right now. The thing I was most passionate about seems lost. I want it to be found!

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